Written by Natalie Klejwa, Contributing Writer

While at a recent visit to the doctor, I forgot my Kindle, and had to resign myself to finding something worthwhile to read in a nearby stack of mags. Among the usual People, Woman’s Day, Parenting, and Home and Garden, I came across one I hadn’t seen before: Success.

I perused through the table of contents until something caught my eye. It was an article about the differences between Players and Pretenders, and I was struck by the Biblical truths presented in this secular article. Do you desire to be influence the people in your life? Here’s how:

1. Players have a servant’s mindset. Pretenders have a selfish mindset.

Isn’t that interesting? Our culture recognizes that success comes from serving others. Yet it despises the woman who chooses to serve her husband and family. In other words, go ahead and serve your boss, your co-workers, your clients and your friends. But your family? Are you kidding? To serve THEM means you are relegated to doormat status.

Here’s a great question the article posed:

How can you tell if you have a servant attitude?

Answer: By the way you react when you are treated like one.

Don’t you love that? When was the last time you were treated like someone’s servant? How did you feel? What did you say to yourself? What did you say out loud? I remember being a new wife. “What do you think I AM?? Your SERVANT?”

Well, if I want to be a woman of influence in the life of my husband…um…yes. Why would I care more about my boss than my husband? More about my co-workers and clients than my progeny?

2. Players are mission conscious. Pretenders are position conscious.

Are you on a mission? Or are you just jockeying for position? This kind of thing goes on in churches all the time. If you want to influence the people around you, be passionate about something other than yourself. We all have issues with this. I love myself just as much as the next guy. So we need to keep our eyes focused on ardently pursuing the glory of King Jesus rather than on pampering our ever-loving selves.

Keep in mind that whatever gets us excited will rub off on those around us. If our children see us more excited about their ball game on Sunday morning than the corporate worship of our Creator, guess what they will grow up thinking about ball vs. God?

3. Players are job-happy. Pretenders are job hunters.

Do you love your job as wife, mother and homemaker? Or does your family hear you whining about your lot in life all the time? Is your attitude that of surrendered contentment? A peaceful and joyful demeanor that permeates your home? Or do you tend to think you’d be SO much happier if ONLY you had so-and-so’s life. If ONLY you had a bigger home. A better yard. A nicer car. A generous budget. A different husband. Another past.

You are influencing everyone around you whether you are aware of it or not. What do they think about your critical role in society? Are your little girls just dying to grow up and have your life? Are your little boys looking forward to marrying the girl of their dreams? A girl just like their mother?

4. Players deliver the goods. Pretenders promise the goods.

This one is for us bloggers. We like to blog about truth. But are we living it? And who really knows? Our Creator knows. And deep down inside, we do too.

5. Players live to see others succeed. Pretenders are interested in their own success.

Hunkering down at home to wipe noses, tables, and bottoms isn’t going to land any of us on the pages of, well…Success magazine. But it just may launch a few human beings into influential lives of their own. Lives that will impact the world for Jesus Christ. Lives that will impact other lives for all eternity.

So…Player or Pretender. Which one are you?

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